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SECTION 3. The Practice of When-Which-How
The Framework
La estructura de la práctica. Diagrama
Practicing the Six Heart Virtues
A Day in the Life of...
A New Day in the Life of...
THE PRACTICE OF WHEN-WHICH-HOW
This is the goal of the when-which-how practice: to draw your soul into the experience of the body-mind, and enable it to lead the expression of your life in the domains of timespace
It is the heart’s intention to be the enabling force for this goal.
The Framework
At the end of the last section, we discussed the definitions of the six heart virtues from the angle of the blueprint of exploration. This is the big picture viewpoint that places living from the heart, emotional self-mastery, and its practices within the context of the soul’s journey through the multiverse. One of the stops on this journey is planet Earth. This is a place where we are experiencing separation from the soul and its unified state with First Source. Learning to live from the heart is the process of integrating the higher, unified experience of the soul with the unique, individuated personality we have evolved in spacetime. This might be called the ultimate framework and it forms the transcendental background for all our experiences.
The paper, “Living from the Heart,” mentions another framework that is more directly connected to our practice. This is the fundamental structure in which we conduct our practice of when-which-how. The practice rests on the foundation of coherence.
The art of the genuine is the practice of coherence between the deeper awakening of the heart virtues within each of us, and their faithful expression in the worlds of form. Those individuals who are awakened to the frequencies of the energetic heart within and practice–to their best ability in the moment–the expression of these frequencies in their behavior and actions are practicing their highest purpose
[They are] seeking to increase the degree of coherence between what they understand their heart virtues to be and how they can express those heart virtues with genuineness.
This is a straightforward process. We read or hear about these six virtues. We recall their meanings as we have understood them from our social upbringing. We begin to think more deeply about them in relation to the suggestion that these virtues are aspects of divine love; that they originate in the immortal spiritual soul; and that they are contained in our energetic body at the place of our heart. Based on all this, we begin to create our own ideas about these virtues. These make a deeper impact on us and we begin to apply these to our own behaviors and attitudes. We move from an intellectual level to a practical level. The critical factor is that we are using our intention to activate what is in our hearts and minds by expressing these six heart virtues in our lives. This is coherence based on authenticity and genuineness. This entire process is based on a framework.
There is an ascending spiral process to this practice….One must be grounded in the framework, and this can be done by studying the free e-paper “The Art of the Genuine: A Spiritual Imperative” and then contemplating its meaning.
The diagram I have supplied here (following page) is a summary, from my perspective, of the basic “framework” described in “The Art of the Genuine: A Spiritual Imperative.” However, that paper should be studied in order to gain a more complete understanding of the art of the genuine. The process described in the diagram is not a perfect, “air-tight” model, but I believe it can help us understand the framework well enough to begin practicing when-which-how. "The Art of the Genuine" paper should be studied, however, in order to gain a more complete understanding of the art of the genuine.
The top of the diagram depicts the soul receiving divine love from the Domain of Unity. It then passes this on to the energetic heart in the form of six fields of intelligence, which are called the six heart virtues.
The middle portion of the diagram indicates the subjective mental-emotional dimension where we create our thoughts and feelings. In this section of the diagram, the heart represents our emotional state. If we are oriented toward social enculturation, the heart is weakened relative to the soul and the six virtues. If we are oriented toward the soul, the heart is strengthened relative to the soul and the six virtues.
The thoughts and emotions generated by social enculturation create the ego-personality and consequent incoherence and chaos in one’s Individual Human Energetic Field (IHEF). This contributes to the overall chaos and incoherence in the Collective Human Energetic Field (CHEF). As illustrated in the diagram, practicing the social order interferes with the reception of the six heart virtues emanating from the soul via the energetic heart. Also notice, that in this case the mind is the transmitter of thought to the emotions. Here, the ego-mind transmits thoughts and ideas to the non-heart-based emotions, creating a vicious cycle that reinforces the ego-personality structure.
The right side of the diagram shows a different scenario. Here the six heart virtues are transmitted to the emotional field without interference (ideally). This creates the soul-personality and consequent coherence in our Individual Human Energetic Field (IHEF). This contributes to the accumulation of coherence in the Collective Human Energetic Field (CHEF). This coherence is maintained through the artistry of expressing the six heart virtues. This is the practice of when-which-how. Now the heart-based emotional field is transmitting its energetics to the mind. (Notice also, that the situation is reversed relative to the mind and emotions.) And the mind, in tandem with the heart-based emotions, is now able to create thoughts and ideas expressive of the soul, and mediated by the energetic heart. This creates the virtuous cycle that reinforces the soul-personality structure.
The bottom section of the diagram simply shows the objective, third dimensional results of our expressions—derived from our habituation to the social order, or derived from our awakening to the soul’s Domain of Unity. At the left side of the diagram we are practicing the social order and on the right side, we are practicing the art of the genuine (no symbolic pun intended). I would also point out that practicing the social order is not necessarily bad or unethical. It’s practicing the social order exclusively—without the spiritual dimension of the energetic heart and soul—that creates conditions of materialism, separatism, mistrust, and fear.
The “opposites” of the six virtues are my own interpretations. I may want to spend a little time pondering on my own interpretations of the virtues’ opposites because their presence, either in yourself or others, is an indicator of when to apply the appropriate heart virtues. Probably most of us are already familiar with the polar opposites of the virtues and therefore, they can serve as bridges to the virtues themselves. Rather than seeing these opposites as “bad,” we might compare them to malnourished trees metaphorically deprived of the nurturing sunlight of the soul’s rays by a polluted emotional atmosphere. By intentionally shining the light of the soul on these weakened and stunted trees, we can clear the atmosphere and restore these trees to health.
Practicing the Six Heart Virtues
One can experiment with the six virtues and learn how to deepen their understanding—not at an intellectual level, but rather a practical application level.
Practicing the art of the genuine is magnetically attracting these fields of intelligence into your consciousness and then expressing them in your behavior and actions to all forms of life that cross your path every moment in time and every centimeter in space to the best of your ability.
The paper, “Living from the Heart” states that there are “too many variables to assign clear-cut guidelines” to the when-which-how practice. Consequently, it recommends maintaining a high state of internal coherence so that our intuition can guide us in the practice. With this in mind, I have created a typical day in the life of a practitioner. I have tried to include encounters and situations that most people can identify with. The “solutions” to these scenarios are simply examples of applying the heart virtues to the common, day-to-day routine of living that we all experience. The examples provided here are glimpses into the process of the practice. They are my experiments with the six heart virtues and are not meant to be set rules. They are examples that may be common to the experiences of many practitioners in general, but are not similar in detail. Your application of when-which-how will be different than mine, even though we are all applying the same virtues, and have the same goal—contributing positive emotions to the CHEF.
In order to provide practical examples of practice, I have had to calibrate the definitions of the six virtues as described in listed earlier. Calibrating does not mean we change the virtues’ fundamental definitions; it means that we adjust their resonant meanings in proportion to our world of daily living. The idea is similar to a musical note. The note C has higher and lower frequencies or pitches. They all resonate to the same note, but have different sound frequency expressions. In the case of the heart virtues, for example, appreciation of the blueprint of exploration is at the universal scale, while appreciation of one’s family is at an interpersonal, human scale. We are still feeling appreciation, but the scales are different because they are adjusted in proportion to their application. This is an example of how to apply the virtue or virtues that have been chosen for each encounter and situation.
A Day in the Life of…
6 AM. Alarm clock rings. Time to wake up. Oh no, time to get up for work already. Where did the night go? I can’t wait for my day off, or my vacation, or my retirement. Maybe another job would be even better. I still feel tired and I’m uncertain about the day.
6:30 AM. Breakfast. My wife is already reminding me about the after-school soccer match I must attend, while I am already stressing over the project I have going on at work. Meanwhile, my two children are arguing about something and I discover that the morning newspaper is lying in a puddle of water.
Unable to read the paper and avoiding the arguing kids, I turn on the TV only to learn that my taxes are going to be raised once again because the government doesn’t have enough money. Next there is a report that torrential rains somewhere in the world have destroyed hundreds of homes and have left thousands of people without shelter. I quickly switch channels again, in order to get the sports’ scores.
7:30 AM. I ponder the meaning of life as my car crawls along at the usual slow morning pace. Suddenly all traffic comes to a dead stop and I realize there has been an accident up ahead and I may be late for work. Frustration soon leads to irritation, and then anger.
8:30 AM. I get to work just in time for my project meeting and I immediately find out that something has gone wrong with the project. I know it’s not my fault, but is obviously the fault of some idiot in another department.
10:30 AM. My boss calls me into her office to inform me that it wasn’t an idiot from another department who screwed up, but it was, in fact, me. I am the idiot who screwed up. What’s more, she now tells me that I better stay late tonight to correct the problem. I’m too afraid to tell her I can’t because of a game my kid is in after school. My stress level has just doubled. Just before 5 PM, too fearful of telling the truth about the soccer game, I fake illness and inform my manager that I have to go home. “Okay,” she says, “but you better get this corrected before the weekend.”
12:00 Noon. I am too stressed out to eat lunch, so I try to take a nap to forget my troubles.
5:30 PM. I arrive at the soccer game, but have missed the beginning and my wife wants to know why? I dare not say a word. Halfway through the game, my son’s team is losing and no one is happy. Meanwhile, I’m thinking about that damned project at work. My son’s team pulls through and wins the game, but my momentary happiness is quickly shattered when I realize that I locked my keys in the car in my rush to not miss the start of the game, which, by the way, I did anyway. My wife must drive home to get the spare keys while I wait by the car for her return. Dinner will be delayed tonight. We could go out for dinner, but we went out last night and our budget can’t handle it.
8:00 PM. We are finally eating dinner and my wife is telling me about the chores that must get done this weekend. I am nodding in agreement, but I haven’t heard a word because I am worried about correcting the mistake I (the idiot) made at work, which has delayed the project’s launch date. Meanwhile, another argument has broken out between the two kids and I scream at them to shut-up and go to bed. Having solved that problem, I decide to watch television and ignore the family problems.
10 PM. Bedtime, and I look forward to a “restful” night in order to be ready for another day.
Question: Did you identify any point in this person’s day when he could have applied the heart virtues? If you answered yes to any particular portion of this day, then you know what the when-which-how practice is all about—reducing stress by reducing the emotional chaos created by practicing the social order exclusively—in other words, without integrating the spiritual dimensions of the heart and soul into your dominant third-dimensional life.
So we need to shift our dimensional focus from exclusively centering on the third dimension by incorporating a fourth dimension and maybe even a fifth dimension. This shift is not about abandoning one dimension in favor of another. It is about shifting to a greater bandwidth of perceptions and awareness, to a wider range of frequencies that include the heart and soul.
Granted, your typical day may not be exactly like the day described here and there are many millions of people in this world who have much worse days than this; people who have no alarm clocks, no cars, and no televisions. Worse yet, they may not have breakfasts and dinners, jobs, or families. But generally speaking, if you are reading this guide, then you not only have most of the things mentioned in this scenario, but you also have a computer and Internet access.
According to Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, we are on a rung of the ladder in which many of our physiological, safety, and belonging needs are being met and we have the opportunity to focus on our psychological and spiritual needs. Consequently, we are fortunate enough to be in a position to work at emotional self-mastery, to improve our individual energetic fields and, in turn to improve the collective human energetic field (CHEF). We should take advantage of this opportunity not only for our own sakes, but also for the sake of humankind—for what we contribute to the whole, we contribute to ourselves.
Keeping all this in mind, let’s rewind this person’s typical day and play it back as if he had decided to apply the when-which-how practice to his everyday encounters. We are going to follow this man’s activities to see how the application of when-which-how affects the quality of life for this individual and for those who cross his path.
A New Day in the Life of…
If I don’t practice for a day, I know it. If I don’t practice for two days, my wife knows it. If I don’t practice for three days, the world knows it. Attributed to Vladimir Horowitz
6:00 AM. Alarm clock rings. Time to wake up. Oh no, time to get up for work already. Where did the night go? Although I still feel tired, I feel a new meaning to my life. It might be due to that email message I got from my friend about three months ago, telling me about a website called, Event Temples. I downloaded and read the website’s primary article, “Living from the Heart” and liked it. There was something about it that just resonated with me.
6:30 AM. A 5-minute time of reflection on the six heart virtues. I have been doing the Virtuous Cycle Technique from the “Living from the Heart” paper. Some days I feel too tired or I’m in a bad mood, and I just can’t seem to do the meditation. Some days, even when I meditate, it doesn’t seem very effective. But I’m trying my best to do it as often as possible and for the past couple of weeks I have been steadier in the practice.
6:50 AM. Breakfast. My wife is already reminding me about the after-school soccer match I must attend, while I am already stressing over the project I have going on at work. It’s getting close to the critical launch. Meanwhile, my two children are arguing about something and I discover that my morning newspaper is lying in a puddle of water.
I am getting irritated and am bordering on anger when I suddenly realize that this past year I have become callous and thankless in relation to my family because of the stress and anxiety of my job. I have been avoiding the guilt associated with this and feel ashamed of myself.
I don’t know what comes over me, but I spontaneously decide to try the Six Heart Virtues Grid Meditation that I read about in “Living from the Heart.” I visualize myself as a point of divine love with the six heart virtues surrounding me and encompassing the kitchen. I had read about this in the paper I downloaded from Event Temples, but except for one attempt, I haven’t tried it because I’ve had my hands full just trying to do the Virtuous Cycle Technique. So I breathe the virtues through my system and into the energy fields of my family. At first this feels kind of weird and airy-fairy, but I finally admit that it actually feels kind of nice. (I remember trying it for the first time at work last week, but I felt embarrassed and self-conscious about it, so I stopped.)
Aware of my insensitivity I realize that I need to show more appreciation for my family, I also realize that I need to apply understanding and compassion to my own shortcomings. This may take a while, but at least I have made a start. Who knows, maybe I will even be able to overcome my guilt and eventually forgive myself.
There is too much confusion right now to express any of this to my wife, but at least I feel better inside knowing that I have become sensitive to the problem. This, in and of itself, gives me energy and my stress level actually feels like it has gone down a little bit.
The arguing kids are too much to deal with now and I don’t know what to do about the irritation I feel because of the wet newspaper. All I can do right now is observe this irritation and feel it in my gut.
7:30 AM. I ponder the meaning of life while slowly driving in the morning traffic jam. Suddenly all traffic comes to a dead stop and I realize there is an accident ahead and I may be late for work. I notice my frustration and anger building up as it usually does in these situations. I decide to apply the virtues of humility and understanding to this situation, but to my surprise I cannot seem to activate these feelings.
Wondering what is going on, I realize that it isn’t easy to activate the virtues when negative emotions have gotten into my system and are running riot. It takes a while for me to allow these negative emotions to subside before I can focus on bringing forth the feelings of humility and understanding.
Humility allows me to deflate my own self-importance. After all, I’m not the only person in this mess. I’m in this traffic jam along with other people who will probably be late for work just like me. Besides there’s nothing I can do about it anyway.
This attitude actually helps the virtue of understanding emerge. It seems natural to me in this situation because understanding implies a combination of knowledge and reason, leading to meaning. I know there is a large volume of traffic at rush hour and therefore it’s just common sense that accidents are more likely to occur under these conditions.
Now I feel better. The pain of frustration has subsided and I feel so much better that I decide to send this same combination of humility and understanding to my fellow prisoners of the highway. I try my best to visualize the heart virtues grid around my body and imagine these two virtues flowing out to those around me.
8:30 AM. I get to work just in time for my project meeting and I immediately find out that something has gone wrong with the project. I know it’s not my fault, but is obviously the fault of some idiot in another department.
Observing the thoughts and feelings that come into my mind, I cannot avoid the fact that I have just condemned someone for making an error even though I have no evidence to back it up. My heart tells me that this is not the right attitude. Despite my certainty that it isn’t my error, I need to practice forgiveness and not condemn another person. After all, if I cannot forgive someone for a mistake, the resentment I feel toward them will only create unhealthy, negative emotions that create more stress on the job. I imagine the virtue of forgiveness flowing outward to that “someone” in another department.
A couple of months ago, I would have been irritated at least all day over an incident like this one. Comparing that feeling of irritation with this new feeling of forgiveness is like a breath of fresh air. Instead of feeling locked into an irritable and uncomfortable emotional state, by contrast, I feel liberated, able to let go of this emotional discomfort. Ordinarily, I would have been drained of energy all day, but now I feel energized and somehow more empowered.
10:30 AM. My boss calls me into her office to inform me that it wasn’t an idiot from another department who screwed up, but it was, in fact, me. I am the idiot who screwed up. I am suddenly in a state of shock! How can this be possible? Here I am, sending forgiveness to someone who made this huge mistake and all along it was me. I was nice enough to take the time to send forgiveness to somebody and they didn’t even need it! I AM an idiot. Not only that, I am a conceited, egotistical idiot, for I automatically assumed that because I am such a superior person the mistake could not possibly have been mine. For some bizarre reason, Carly Simon’s song, “You’re So Vain” began playing in my head.
What’s more, my manager now informs me that I better stay late tonight to correct the problem. I’m afraid to tell her I can’t because of the soccer game my son is in after school. My stress level has just doubled.
12:00 Noon. Sitting in my office at lunchtime, I reflect on the morning’s events. I have recovered enough from my emotional reactions to look at the attitudes and behaviors I expressed as a result of this crisis. First of all, from the beginning of this incident I was so into my own ego that I automatically believed someone else caused this crisis. I was able to practice when-which-how by centering in my heart and sending forgiveness to this individual.
That part was fine, but when my manager informed me that the crisis was my fault, I lost it and condemned myself to idiot status and even resented the fact that I sent forgiveness to someone who didn’t even earn it. To be honest, that’s pretty bad. Not only am I egotistical, but in my anger, I actually resented sending someone a heart virtue!”
Okay, enough wallowing in what has already been done. All I can do now is realign to my energetic heart. Immediately, I close my eyes and visualize myself as a point of divine love surrounded by the six virtues. After some effort to calm down, I see and feel appreciation in front of me and compassion behind me. I am aware of forgiveness to my front left and humility to my front right. Behind me on the left is understanding and behind me on the right is valor.
The simple act of performing this exercise, allowing the energies of these virtues to flow through my being, somehow renews my spirit. Yes, I screwed up, I lost control, but now I can feel the healing energies of the virtues restoring my balance—giving me the strength and insight I need to move ahead.
This crisis is turning into a breakthrough. I now see that my heart has led me to the soul itself. I feel uplifted and shifted in consciousness to a state of serenity and unity. From this higher and wider vantage point, I can observe my ego-personality and pour love into it. I feel compassion for all the mistakes and needless suffering it has created and endured. I allow this compassion to flow into my awareness. I surrender to the inflow of love. Compassion leads to understanding. The light of understanding reveals how I have been denying the flaws and imperfections of my personality structure. I have donned the armor of war and protection, and built a fortress to hide within.
The ego needs these devices for protection, but the soul does not. I can understand this now and I can release myself from the burden of deception. I can remove the restricting mask of the social order and show my true face. This release, this liberation, is the result of self-forgiveness.
I feel so good I want to pour these feeling out on everyone. So without even thinking about it, I spontaneously send a wave of heart virtues out to my family, friends, co-workers, and the entire world.
When I come out of this meditative state, I am a little embarrassed because the experience seemed so out of proportion to the event that triggered it. But then I recall stories I’ve heard about Zen Buddhist monks who became enlightened so suddenly and without warning that it was like being struck by lightning. I think the word they used was Satori.
1:00 PM. Feeling confident about this heartfelt experience, I do something that I never would have dreamt of before today. I go to my boss’s office and ask to talk to her. I apologize for my emotional outburst and the mistake I made on the project. I am especially sorry for blaming someone else for it before the evidence showed the true source of the error. I think to myself how great it feels to admit my true position in all this—to not have to defend a false position. The virtue of humility has lifted this burden from my shoulders.
I then find the courage to tell my manager that I really can’t stay overtime today to correct the problem because my son is playing in a soccer match after school. To my utter astonishment, she understands. For the first time since I have worked for her, she is sharing information about her personal life. She relates that her daughter also plays soccer and that she always tries to attend her daughter’s games. She knows how important it is to her daughter when she makes the effort to get to her games. So my boss tells me that she doesn’t really care when I get this problem resolved as long as I get it done by the weekend.
I leave work this afternoon amazed at how smoothly everything seems to be going. Reviewing all that has happened today, I realize that I expressed compassion, understanding, forgiveness, humility, and valor. I now have an enormous appreciation for the powers of the energetic heart and the emanating love of the soul standing behind it. Amazing. I have utilized every virtue without even realizing it. Looking back on it, they just seemed to flow naturally and effortlessly from my heart. Simply making the effort to turn my attention to them was the key to their transforming power. I make a quick mental note to remember to do this more often because, up until today, I have only remembered to apply the technique once in a while. If I can discipline myself to be more aware of my interactions, I can increase my opportunities to apply the virtues to the small difficulties of life and prevent them from growing into major problems, like the crisis today.
5:30 PM. I arrive at the soccer game, but have missed the beginning and my wife wants to know why? At first, this sarcastic question annoys me and ordinarily I would just let it go, but after the events of today, I decide it is time to express my feelings about these irritating remarks. Now I understand how letting things like this build up can lead to greater difficulties later on.
I ask her to please not be so sarcastic because I tried my best to get to the game on time, but traffic was unusually heavy today. I immediately sense her surprise that I have actually given a response to her question. I continue by saying that I realize that I haven’t been very appreciative and sensitive to her and the kids the past months and therefore maybe I bear some of the responsibility for her unkind reactions to me. While relating all this to her, I am doing my best to send her understanding and compassion. She suggests that we talk about it later. I agree.
Halfway through the game, my son’s team is losing and no one is happy. Meanwhile, I’m thinking about this whole concept of competitive sports and how it fits in with emotional self-mastery. Should I be sending the heart virtues to anyone right now? What if I send valor to my son’s team, but not the opposing team? That’s similar to people praying to God for victory over another team. Or worse yet, praying to God for victory in war. This is a deeper moral issue and too complicated for me right now. How can a person send courage to one team and withhold it from another? Where is the compassion in that? Doesn’t the sun shine on the good and bad alike? I decide that I should be neutral in terms of the current soccer game. To me, it’s just common sense. So, I decide to send both teams valor. Why not, aren’t sports really supposed to be about how you play the game and not about winning or losing? I laugh to myself seeing how naive that idea has become.
As it turns out, my son’s team pulls through and wins the game and we head home for dinner.
8:00 PM. We are finally eating dinner and my wife is telling me about the chores that must get done this weekend. I am nodding in agreement, but I haven’t heard a word because I am thinking about how I am going to straighten out the mess at work.
I then realize to my dismay that I haven’t been present. My mind has drifted off and I am not giving my wife the attention she deserves (that anyone deserves). This occurrence is not a major catastrophe, but I am beginning to realize how insidious it actually is. The vast majority of people find this state of mind perfectly acceptable, but I am increasingly seeing this as a real impediment to practicing when-which-how. If I cannot hold my focus on a simple dinner conversation with a member of my own family, what does that tell me about self-mastery in general, let alone emotional self-mastery? I need to give this some serious thought later on, but for now I need to focus on the moment.
I apologize for not paying attention to our discussion and we settle our plans for the weekend. We then get back to our earlier discussion at the soccer game. Apparently, the virtues of understanding and compassion have had an effect on her because she is not defensive at all about her edginess over the past few months. Through valor, I am able to honestly express my situation at work and explain the reasons for my callous and thankless behavior of late. She appreciates my forthrightness and I express to her how appreciative I am of her efforts to support the family in so many ways. I express my understanding for how she must have felt during this stage of our relationship. Turning within, I put myself in her position and can feel compassion welling up in me, and I send it to her.
Meanwhile, another argument has broken out between the two kids in the next room and instead of screaming at them to shut-up and go to bed, I inform them that my wife and I will help resolve their argument in the morning. Having temporarily resolved that problem, we decide to listen to some music before going to bed. As the music is playing I picture the six virtues energy grid surrounding me and enveloping most of the rooms in our home. A new atmosphere of harmony descends upon our family…at least for a while.
10:00 PM. Bedtime, and I look forward to a “restful” night in order to be ready for another great day.
As I drift to sleep, I am aware that my efforts to apply the heart virtues are turning out very well. I have a lot to learn about how to use them more skillfully, but I am pleasantly surprised at how effectively they work, even for a novice like me.
